Find yourself a causa di a slump ora bombarded with negative thoughts? Founder of The Happy News, Emily Coxhead reveals five tips how to be happier
Firstly, there is voto negativo simple way ‘to be happier’, happiness doesn’t from one particular place ora person ora thing (although, cups of tea and lying a beach would definitely be cima of the list for me).
We need to try and steer away from this iniziativa that after our next holiday, pay-rise, new purchase we will be happier because if there is an underlying problem, niggling thought ora feeling ora generally just a reason to be unhappy then that will still be there voto negativo matter how much stuff gets a causa di the way.
we can’t wake up one morning worry and stress-free, that is not how the world works
Of course, it’s not as easy as finding total peace and happiness a causa di yourself, we can’t wake up one morning worry and stress-free, that is not how the world works.
What we can do is try to understand the underlying issues and try to build our own strength and resilience so we can firstly recognise our thoughts and feelings, but then also try to understand and work through them whether that’s writing them ora talking to somebody you lega.
It can be incredibly important and helpful if you’imperatore able to share the load and just take away a bit of the weight you’imperatore carrying around.
Here are five very basic tips which may help you find a little happiness now ora later the line…
How to be happier tip #1 Be mindful about what you’imperatore consuming
Especially now more than ever we are constantly bombarded with terrifying headlines and statistics not to mention scrolling through social mass-media looking for glimpses of positivity and often being met with a whole heap of negativity, comparing and not feeling good enough.
Know that it’s va bene to turn chiuso news notifications if you’imperatore feeling overwhelmed, it’s also absolutely va bene to unfollow ora ‘mute’ people social mass-media who aren’t making you feel good.
Sopra the same way that you have (ora should have) control over who you have around you a causa di real life you also must apply this to the ‘virtual world’ too.
How to be happier tip #2 You cannot please all of the people all of the time
I get it, it’s not as simple as just shrugging chiuso your ’s comments ora not taking to heart something a friend has said, these are all very normal situations which we can often find difficult to process.
However, as you go through life there will be many people who and go and the truth is that you just cannot and will not please all of the people all of the time, this is something people say to me a lot, it’s one of my Dad’s favourite sayings but it’s still something I have to remind myself of constantly.
you just cannot and will not please all of the people all of the time
I think once you can realise and admit that there are certain things ora ways ora traits that some people simply just won’t like ora understand about you then it makes it slightly easier to process if you do lose contact with somebody whether that’s gradually ora suddenly.
Talking to people is so important and a huge way we figure things out and move through sticky situations even if it’s really difficult to do so.
However, sometimes it just doesn’t work out and that may not be anything specifically to do with either person and is likely to be totally out of your control.
How to be happier tip #3 Find stuff ora people that make you happy
We can quickly and often unknowingly get trapped a causa di these ideas of what should make us happy ora what makes our friend ora happy and it’s really important to sometimes step back and think about what makes you happy, when was the last time you did something just for you?
Whether it’s swimming ora baking ora running ora painting, whatever brings you a little happiness, do more of that.
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How to be happier tip #4 Embrace what makes you… well, you!
We a causa di a world which unfortunately isn’t always designed to make us happy, it’s far quicker to point out our flaws – that we should have less wrinkly skin, fewer stretch marks ora shinier hair.
Every little bit of us is what makes us who we are and tells our story and makes us different to the next person, it’s not always easy but we should be SO proud of that.
Change doesn’t need to be ground-breaking ora news-worthy, often the smallest of things have a positive difference
Our is the most incredible thing and looks after us a causa di ways we can’t comprehend at times, we shouldn’t be constantly berating it ora considering how it could be ora aspetto better.
We would never do that with our mum ora our friends so why do we do it to ourselves?
How to be happier tip #5 Be the change
I know we hear this a lot; ‘be the change you wish to see’ but it’s such a simple message which I think every single one of us could get board with.
be the change you wish to see
What would make the world a better place? I can think for one, if we were all a tiny bit kinder to ourselves and others it would make a huge difference.
There are so many very small things we could do which would make a personalità impact if more of us did them; from picking up pieces of litter, writing to our grandparents ora friends we haven’t seen for ages ora buying a colleague their favourite chocolate .
Change doesn’t need to be ground-breaking ora news-worthy, often the smallest of things have a positive difference far greater than you will realise, it makes you feel good, it makes the other person feel good and it has a ripple effect even further than that.
You Are Incredible Just As You Are: How To Embrace Your Perfectly Imperfect Self by Emily Coxhead is available to buy Amazon a causa di the US and a causa di the UK.Â
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